Monday, November 30, 2015

High School was so ten years ago...

This past weekend was my husbands 10 year class reunion.  Now he's a grade below me so I've been out now for 11 years but after encountering his and scrolling through embarrassing year book photos I realized how much, yet how little we change in 10 years!

I look back thinking how different I am, but really adulthood has just gotten started!  Just like now my hair always constantly changed.  Check out my ole high school pixies for a blast from the past.

9th Grade...
10th Grade, I had a perm...
Couldn't find 11th grade but here's senior year!
Fast forward 6 years later, and I finally graduated college! haha!

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Thanksgiving 30

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- This is my 30th Thanksgiving on earth and it is extra special.  Why is it so special?  Well I have twins on the way DUH!  My sister, brother in law, mom, dad, niece and husband will all be gathered at my mom and dad's house to stuff ourselves with turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes.

I guess I should get to the part about what I am thankful for right?  Well this year I am thankful for so many things, I am thankful for having a sister that cares about me so much she is carrying twins for me! 

I am thankful for my entire family and all they do for me; my husband works especially hard to make sure we have a beautiful house, nice motorcycles, and cars and just a good life and I am thankful for his love and commitment to this family.

It's mostly weird this Thanksgiving knowing that next year this time I will have two babies also sitting at the dinner table. 

I want to keep this post short and sweet, I just had to write it out that we are over 11 weeks into this pregnancy and I am so, so, so, thankful for these two babies, and my sister, I can't wait to meet them!

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

That one time I messed up...

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- "That one time" is a loose term.  I have messed up a million and one times.  Honestly I tell my guests on air almost everyday, "Don't worry you will be great, I mess up way more than any guest does."  It's the truth too!

Well a few weeks ago I really messed up and it picked up national attention... Don't worry it wasn't anything too bad...

Let me take you back, it was Halloween weekend so Friday the 30th.  I was dressed as Elvis, (I am a big fan of The King.)  I had this whole plan to spin around in this stool during my tease and do my best Elvis impression.  Well I spun around alright, then I just couldn't keep it together... next thing you know I am giggling my ass off!

I mean I was in a hysterical fit of giggles here, just couldn't stop.  Check out the video and you will understand.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Post Halloween : The Hairspray Hangover

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- My favorite holiday has come and gone in a flash, Halloween.  I spend so much time planning a costume and the makeup and everything and then before I know it, it's November and everything is over and all I am left with is a hairspray hangover, and in this case 100 extra bucks!

So this year I took Halloween to a new level and celebrated two weekends in a row.  The weekend before the spooky holiday I went out to Mega 80's Spooktacular at the Intersection with some friends, little did I know I would be tapped on the shoulder to be part of the costume contest.

I had chosen to wore my most authentic Wonder Woman costume.  Briefs and all.  For me walking around in public in briefs is no big thing I mean come on check out this side by side...

Left- Ferris State Track, Right- Wonder Woman on Halloween...
Kind of see what I mean? Anyway, so I basically threw that on in just because Wonder Woman kicks ass and I didn't have a creepy/scary costume (which I like better normally since it is Halloween) so I figured I mine as well be an ass kicking amazonian...

I went on stage and did my best flexing poses... yes I know I have little to no muscle in my arms, don't judge! haha! 

Trying to look like a tough amazonian...
The place was packed and people either thought my ridiculousness was worthy of a prize or they really like Wonder Woman because I took home third place and got 100 bucks!  That definitely made my night!

Fast forward to the following weekend.  Jim and I like to try and match best we can each year so this year I picked Jack and Sally from Nightmare Before Christmas.  I did Jim's makeup as you can tell since it's not that good, my pal and makeup artist Erick did mine (he is incredible!)

Jack and Sally
We had a bunch of friends over, passed out candy and then went out to OTooles in Grand Rapids to celebrate.  All in all it was a lot of fun and the 100 bucks from the previous weekend paid for everything!

Sally and a Skeleton... Or Jackie and Chelsie ;)

Friday, October 23, 2015

Baby Blankenship Update

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- WOW, what a long journey this has been!  So back in September we did another embryo transfer.  It was just like all the others, my sis got hopped up on Valium (they prescribe it! haha) we go to the fertility center and let them do their thing then we typically go enjoy a delicious breakfast.

Those are the two embryos we transferred, both grade1! That's the highest quality when it comes to cell count

Things in this round felt different, Dani wasn't feeling well and she mentioned multiple times that she had this feeling something was up, could she be pregnant?  Well with 3 days before our blood test to confirm she caved and took a pee test, then another, and another, and well... another.  Why so many?  Because they all were positive!  The idea was scary because they did tell us wait til you get a blood test for results but could 4 pregnancy tests be wrong?

Lucky for us there were NOT wrong! Her HCG levels came back soaring and things were looking fantastic.  That meant Jimmy and I had a baby on the way!  My sister had a niece or nephew on the way! This was so exciting!

Things took a turn a few Fridays later we were about 5 weeks along when Dani had to leave work early she called me crying saying she felt some pretty bad cramps and was bleeding.  She was pretty upset (as anyone would be) she had never experienced this with her first pregnancy and we all were concerned that maybe this was a miscarriage.

We called the Dr. and he didn't seem overly concerned but wanted Dani to come in for an early ultrasound to take a look.  We went in immediately the following morning.  I was a wreck inside, just super nervous and deflated.  As positive as I can be in life I had become someone I didn't recognize anymore, I was so negative everything I said about the situation had become sour and not happy.  I did my best though to be happy and try to keep a smile for my sister because she I know was scared and seeing her in pain isn't fun.

We started the ultra sound and Dr. Young told us almost immediately, "ahh, I see your problem here, you have a blood clot, not a big deal at all those happen you will be fine and look I can already see the baby's heart beat at only 5 weeks!"

Then he dropped this A-Bomb on us...

"Well I can see that babies heart beat, not seeing one on the second baby yet, but that's okay we are only 5 weeks, perfectly normal."

We all got quite and Dani said something like, are you telling me there are two babies in there?!

He confirmed that indeed their were!   We were having twins!  He even printed us a first look at the two little embryos growing in her belly.

You cant even really see them!  They are the size of an orange seed here.  An ORANGE SEED... that's tiny.  Dr Young told us to keep our 6 week appointment for the following week just to see if we can see little Baby B.'s heart beat.

A few days went by and we made the haul back up to the fertility center.  By haul I mean down the street from Jim and me, but an hour drive for Dani.  At this point Dani has had no pain at all since Friday when she had the spotting and cramps so she is feeling pretty good other than some morning sickness.

We did the ultra sound and immediately it was different than only a few days prior!  Now they are the size of a pea... much bigger than a damn orange seed!  And I could see two flashing lights, that was the heart beats.  Baby A. had a heart beat of 103 and Baby B. had a heart beat of 105.  Both perfect for only 6 weeks along.  They had already grown so much in just a matter of days... it was insane!

See em in there? they are the size of PEAS!
It's crazy how only a few days later you can see a visible difference in the size!  So that brings me to now, my sisters fabulous friend Amanda took some amazing photos of us in the park and even though we are only just about 7 weeks along I am too excited to hold it in anymore!


I need everyone's prayers being that it's early on, these two babies will be rock stars!

Photo by Amanda Campbell of Blissful Moments Photography

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

No guts no glory

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- Running, I talk about it all the time, we all know at this point that I love to run, and more importantly race.  Since my years at Ferris State University I have found myself constantly looking for my next adventure that involves running.  I think I may have found it.

I got into coaching right after college, I started at the middle school level and now am the head track coach for a local high school.  I LOVE coaching, it brings back great memories as well as gives back to the sport that shaped who I am.  The problem I have with coaching is that not every kid is there to compete.

I know that sounds funny, but I care about it so much, some people just don't.  They do it because their friends are, they want to stay in shape for another sport, or they want to just try something new.  Which is fantastic, but my competitive nature tends to overwhelm the ones who aren't there to win a medal and aren't there to try and PR every meet.

I found myself upset a lot, it's not hard to tell when someone doesn't like you and that is particularly evident in kids.  My teacher friends tell me that you learn pretty quickly that you are the adult and some of them will like and appreciate you and some just won't.  I'm trying to relax a little, not care when a workout doesn't get done the way I have told them to do it. 

All this said I have decided to spread my coaching wings (while still coaching at the high school because I LOVE high school track and cross country) I want to try to coach adults, and teens that are interested who want to get better at their race (5k to marathons!)

What I have to offer

  • 17 years of experience with distance running (racing!) 
  • former varsity collegiate runner
  • 3 time Boston marathon qualifier
  • custom plans to help people achieve their best race
  • skype sessions, or chat sessions post work outs and races to talk about what went right, what went wrong and how we can fix it
I currently also use a system of pilates/yoga to strengthen my hips and core alongside my running training.  Basically what it comes down to is I can offer custom training plans that vary in price from 30 to 50 dollars.  With that price I throw in skype sessions or chat sessions online because I know when given a training plan that doesn't mean the hard part is over!  I WANT people to succeed and become better runners and athletes. 

For more information feel free to email me at with the subject line "LETS RUN"

Monday, October 12, 2015

Photo shoot with Georgina Vaughan

COLUMBUS, Ohio-- Once again I made the 5 plus hour trek out to Columbus, Ohio.  This time it wasn't for a pageant, it was for a bit of a girls weekend.

My friends, Katie, Sydney, Kim, Jessica and Teresa joined me for two days in Columbus to shoot with renound photographer Georgina Vaughan.  Georgina is a bit famous in the pageant world having won Miss Nevada Teen USA, then a few years later winning Miss Nevada USA.

Her father is also a photographer, having worked for Rolling Stone for years she told me he taught her tons of the skills she now uses.  So not only does she "get" pageants but she gets photography which usually leads to killer photos!

Georgina tours the country shooting in different regions giving girls all over a chance to work with her for honestly quite the affordable price.  She brings along a team of two very talented ladies who do hair and makeup included in the package.

These are our "before and after" selfies we took! INCREDIBLE hair and makeup team! 

It was fun helping each other pick out the clothes we wanted to wear for each photo, posing and all, we cheered each other on much like we do in pageants.  Did I mention all us ladies are over 28 years old!  We joked with Georgina that we were her old lady group all weekend considering we all compete in the Ms/Mrs circuit now being that we are all over 30 or married.

This was immediately following getting my makeup done, can these girls just come with me everywhere I go?!?

When it came to picking outfits as usual I wanted the rockstar in me to show, I like edgy stuff, I listen to rock, I like to keep things less "pageanty" and more fun!  So Georgina chose out of my trove of clothes a dress I had picked up from H&M years ago for like 7 dollars.  The black dress is long sleeve with fringe hanging off the sleeves from arm pit to wrist.

Georgina also brings along all the accessories so you don't even need jewelry!  It was like glamour shots for 2015
I haven't 100% committed to my next pageant but I have one in mind... now I have some killer photos to compete with!  Here are the final edits she sent me below, PS the dress I am wearing in these first ones is from sears and it was only like 10 dollars!

At the very end we even took a bit of a group shot!  All us girls met through Galaxy pageants, 4 of them are former Mrs Midwest Galaxy queens, Sydney and I are former Miss Michigan Galaxy queens.  Our paths all crossed through the pageant and we have all maintained a close friendship even being miles apart!

Monday, September 28, 2015

Creature of the night!

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- I love anything to do with costumes and the chance to create something I am all for. This weekend Celebration Cinema North in Grand Rapids celebrated the 40th anniversary of Rocky Horror Picture Show but hosting an outdoor showing.

If you have seen Rocky Horror you know that at a showing you will see amazing costumes, tons of props and lots of singing, dancing, and sweet transvestites!  Tickets were only 5 dollars, and there was an outdoor bar so you could get drinks.  Plus they allowed coolers so you could bring in soda, and snacks.

I decided early on that I was creating my own "Columbia" costume.  She is one of my favorites from the iconic movie and I have done Magenta before.  I didn't have a lot of money to spare so I had to use as much stuff from home as I could.  Let's take a look at this little project from start to finish shall we?

It all starts with a hat... Columbia is notorious for her gold sparkley hat now I could have just bought one but that wouldn't be near as fun would it?  So I found a top hat I had from a different costume and used a glitter spray paint to paint the entire thing a wonderful sparkle gold.

This paint works fantastic BUT it does clog and then you have a PROBLEM! Used the red rhinestones as trim on the hat, just to add some originality to the look

Always spray paint outside or in your garage because the fumes and smell will make you gag to death (At least it does to me hahaha.)  I set up in the garage and basically layed my hat on a piece of wood we had and all over sprayed it, let it dry a few minutes and then coated it again.

Now the wood has a nice glitter accent too ;) 

Best part about this spray is it doesn't flake off and get glitter all over your clothes.  If you were to use a loose glitter and spray adhesive you will find that glitter will rain on you like crazy!  This like anything flakes just a tad but not bad!  Over all I didn't find glitter all over my clothes and I had a nice all over look that was very professional!

Next for the hat I wanted to add some Jackie in there so I trimmed it with some red rhinestone trim, and tacked a big black bow to the back!  Because I love bows!

I glued the stones and bow on with E6000, every crafters best friend!  My husband has those trusses held in the garage for his band so I let it rest on them to dry over night
So now that the hat is complete I needed the rest of my look.  I didn't have much money as I have said so I couldn't put too much into new duds, instead I went with a black and red halter top, that has a corset look to it.  I paired it with a black and red fluffy, tutu skirt that I bought from Hot Topic maybe 5 years ago!  I never knew that I would be able to use that 20 dollar skirt in so many different ways.  I have managed to pair with multiple costumes over the years so it was a good investment.

I found a black sequin bow tie for 2.99 at Halloween Spirit (if you are in Grand Rapids they are located on Alpine Avenue) I lastly wanted a gold jacket to match.  Columbia wears a gold sequin blazer, I had this old metallic gold jacket from Forever 21, again another purchase that was less than 20 dollars!  I got that thing in college in like 2008 and find it still handy.

If you are a costume person like myself, when you have things like that that seem like a "I'll wear this one time for this party..." instead of throwing it out, put it in a box that you store in the basement because I tell you what half of the costumes I make are done out of things I already have right at home from outfits, costumes, and adventures!

Here is the look, now lets put it all together
Throw on a pair of fishnet stockings and you have a finished product!  My friends Lauren, Mackenzie, Heather, and Jake all joined me.  We had such a fantastic time! 

I am now so stoked for Halloween!  I am not telling what I am being yet, but I promise it will be very fun!

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Not here to race, I'm here to PACE!

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- Multiple times I have relied on pacers in a marathon, or half marathon to help lead me to victory.  Going to the start line and finding your "pace" group can take a lot of the tension out of racing because you know you are surrounded by people with similar goals, and similar capabilities as yourself.

I was asked to be the 8:00 per mile pacer for the Michigan Credit Union Bridge Run 10 miler this past weekend.  I was excited because I knew I wasn't in shape to race and PR but I wanted to be part of the race.  I had never paced before this so I wasn't sure how good I would be at it.

Well I discovered I was not very good at it.  Pacing is hard!  The race takes off and I found myself having to look at my watch every five seconds to make sure I wasn't going to fast, which I was going to fast.  I would get caught up talking to some of the other runners I was pacing and next thing you know a mile would beep and I would see we had ran a 7:45.  Which for me is nothing but for someone who is pacing to run 8 minutes a mile and hasn't ran much faster than that... that would be quite the leap!

I luckily had my pal Amanda with me who was a better pacer than I was but both of us struggled with holding the 8 minute pace.  The excitement of a race makes it hard to slow down and just pace!

Some of my other pacing pals and myself before the race!

I was hoping that my lack of sleep (I didn't get home til 3:30 in the morning from Columbus, but that's a whole other story.) would slow me down and make me concentrate on what I was doing.  No such luck.

People seemed to like Amanda and my enthusiasm for helping people to their PR's though and that was fun.  I also got to kick in the last half mile with a guy we had paced and watching him shatter his goal and just run fast made me feel all happy dappy inside! 

Moral of the story I don't know if anyone would want me to pace them but it really was fun being able to try and help!  On a side note I officially was accepted into the Boston Marathon for 2016... so there's that....

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Laurenda Marie Photography

ROCKFORD, Mich.-- I have known Laurenda Bennett for 7 years.  I have seen her go from working model, to a wonderful mommy, and now to photographer!  Laurenda asked if I would mind going with her out to a field near her house to test shoot and of course I said yes!

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Baby Blankenship: Trying to keep a positive outlook

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- I must admit the energy in the room during our second embryo transfer attempt wasn't the same as the first.  While we still were excited it felt different.  I think Jim and I were both a little down, a little worried that it might not work again.

Once again we went in and Dr. Young tells us they thawed 2 of our 6 embryos.  The 2 they thawed were considered 2+ grade.  Meaning they were very good quality.  We sit up by my sisters head and I held her hand while he awkwardly inserted a catheter in order to place the 2 little embryos into her uterus.

The two emrbyos

 I wouldn't say the procedure is overly painful, not that I have had to go through it... but it is uncomfortable, I find tears spring to my eyes watching my sister writhe in pain and trying to breathe through it.  It reminded me of when I was about 7 years old and she was 5.  It had been raining outside and we had matching rain slickers and rain boots.  My mom and dad had taken us to the mall and we were running through the store when she slipped and hit her forehead against the ground.

When she popped up she had this massive goose egg on her forehead.  I immediately started crying, she was calm as can be whimpering a little bit but not full on freaking out.  Not like me, I bawled my eyes out the entire way to the hospital.   They did some x rays on her and she was perfectly fine and she came out grinning telling me that her x ray made it look like she had a mustache like daddy.

It felt like that again I get a panicky feeling when I am scared she is hurting I don't know why it makes me freak out so bad but it does, and like before she is fine.  We left the Dr.'s office and had breakfast at IHOP and talked about everything except the transfer we just did. 

At the Fertility Center right before the transfer

Monday Dani had her blood drawn to test for a pregnancy and sadly it was negative.  I didn't necessarily feel shocked like I did the first time but I felt a sadness wash over me.  I get panicky inside that what if it never works, what if we run out of embryos, what will we do? 

Just like when we were young though, as I panicked and cried my sister calmly sent me a text that said, just remember sometimes this can take a few tries, it doesn't mean anything that it didn't work again it just means we need to try again and we'll keep trying until it works.

I started to feel a little better.  We have 4 embryos left to work with that's at least 2 more attempts at in vitro.  This can still work, this WILL still work.

Thursday, July 16, 2015

What's going on with Baby Blankenship?

ROCKFORD, Mich.-- It's been a while since I posted an update, mainly because not a lot has happened since we found out our first round of in vitro didn't implant.

If you are just tuning in to this story here is the gist; I was born with a fairly rare disorder, CAIS, I have no ovaries or uterus so not only can I not have children of my own, but I cant carry one either.  My sister came to me and offered to be my gestational carrier.  Which basically means we get an egg donor, and use my husbands sperm and she carries the baby.

If you don't struggle with infertility it's hard to understand the stress of it all.  It can feel unfair, women have babies, it's what we do.  Not being able to do that can make me sad and denying that would just be lying.  A common thing I hear my friends say is; "I mean, I don't even know if I can get pregnant..."

I understand the thought process but more often than not you CAN even if it's with a little help from a specialist.  The thing for me is, I CANT there is no help that can get me pregnant.  I have to rely on a whole slew of people, my sister the carrier, my donor for her eggs, my husband for the sperm, and the doctors who implant it.

Anyway my feelings and emo-ness aside here is where we are at.  After the first embryo transfer 10 days went by and we discover it did not implant which means the embryo did not attach itself to the uterine lining.  There can be a number of reasons this happens, it could be as simple as my sister having a "light" month, so her uterine lining was thinner than normal, who really knows.

So after that she goes back to normal life until she has her cycle, by the time she had it, it was almost the middle of June.  Once she had it she started her hormone medication again.  It starts with a pill she takes every day and as we approach round 2 of in vitro she starts taking the heavy duty shots.  She is in that process now.

As for us, we unfortunately only received 2 embryos out of our 7 eggs our donor provided us.  You pay for your eggs and they are frozen, well when they thawed out only 2 made it through the thaw.  Each round of in vitro you transfer 2 embryos, so we were out of eggs and I had to get more.

I think God is watching out for me because out of pure luck our donor was going back in to donate another batch of eggs the same month.  I got 7 more eggs and prayed that this time we would get all 7 to work with.

One of the eggs did not make it but the other 6 successfully turned into embryos with a grade of 2+ to 1.  (the scale is 1 to 4, 1 being the best quality, 4 being the worst.)  They then freeze those 6 embryos and unthaw 2 at a time to do the in vitro process that hopefully we only need to do one more time.

Knowing we have 3 rounds worth of embryos makes me feel much better about the entire situation.  I don't need to worry about paying for more eggs or having to find a new donor at least not for a while.

We currently do not know when the next transfer will be but I pray that the next round works and little baby Blankenship will be on his/her way.  On another note here is a cute picture of my niece Sylvia, my husband Jimmy and myself:

And here is ANOTHER cute niece photo of us I call this one "An afternoon jog," Olives, Sylvia and me.

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Emma Frost Cosplay with Mel Boonstra

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- I haven't shot a cosplay in nearly a year!  I was itching to get behind the camera and be creative.

I teamed up with Mel Boonstra who was the official photographer for Mrs Michigan America, I did my own makeup and and popped in a white contact lense for effect.  I'll tell you what those things are not that comfortable! 

I helped design Emma Frost with Viva Wonder Woman a pro cosplay we out of Vegas.  I told her my thoughts and also explained that I probably wouldn't be sporting this look in Miss Frosts usual attire of white undies... We came up with a pleather legging instead! 

The shoot was fun and Mel did a great job incorporating some cool photoshop effects!

Friday, June 12, 2015

Bi-plane rides in Kalamazoo

KALAMAZOO, Mich.-- I've never thought twice about flying.  I hop in a plane and go to my destination, not really appreciating the fact that we are FLYING.  I did a story a week or so ago over at the Kalamazoo Air Zoo and my thoughts about flying changed.

Waldo Wright is a company that has 4 bi planes, basically they are two winged planes that are very old, like made in the 20's.  All summer long they are offering rides from the air zoo.  They take you on a 15 minute flight that goes up about 800 feet. 

The thing that was cool is that on these flights you get to experience flight the way it originally was meant to be.  Back in 1929 people from all over would line up in a field with change waiting for their chance to go on a 90 second flight.  In these planes there is no roof, you feel the air, smell the exhaust, it is such a cool experience.

Up in the air!  The little guy next to me plugging his ears is the son of the marketing manager at the Air Zoo... It was a little loud for his taste ;)

My camera man James and I came back to the studio and put together a piece on the experience and on how others can take part.  Check it out here:

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Baby Blankenship Update

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.-- So many emotions in the past few weeks that I couldn't keep up with my own brain.  On Wednesday May 6th we had our first round of in vitro with our gestational carrier.  In case you haven't read some of my previous posts let me explain.

I was born with a rare syndrome and do not have ovaries or a uterus so I can't have children.  My beautiful, wonderful sister has decided to carry a baby for me, so my husband and I using a donor egg and his sperm are going through in vitro fertilization where they transfer embryo's into my sister's uterus and hope they take.

I told myself that I would not get upset if round one did not take.  I know that this will work eventually, and the Dr we have been seeing even said our odds are very high and there's no real reason it shouldn't work within three rounds.

Even though I told myself this and even told other people this, it didn't stop me from feeling like someone punched me in the gut when I found out that round one did not work.  I felt a sadness that I didn't even know existed.

Jim came home from work after the call and stayed with me because I was virtually inconsolable.  When people tell you this journey is long I now understand, everything that was exciting about it vanished when I realized it wasn't a snap your fingers process.

In case you are new to this procedure let me give you some background on how it works:

1. My sister does rounds of hormone's to get her body ready to carry a baby that isn't hers.

 2. When she's ready we go to the clinic where they take 2 embryo's they have created from a donor's egg and Jim's sperm and transfer them to her uterus.

Jimmy, Me and Dani before the procedure

This is a picture of our two embryo's before transfer!

3. We go into a room where the Dr. basically does an exam on Dani's uterus, and then through a catheter inserts the two embryos.  While they do that someone has an ultersound going so Jim and I can actually SEE the two embryos going into the uterus, it is WILD to say the least.

That tiny white line, that's the embryos!

4.  Now you sit and wait... 10 days after the transfer they can tell you whether you have a successful pregnancy or not.

I got the call on Monday the 18th at around 1:30, the nurse sounded so nervous that I knew something bad was about to be said.  It didn't work.  As I mentioned earlier, nothing can prepare you for that phone call because each round you go in so positive thinking THIS will be the round, THIS is when it is going to work and we'll be parents. 

After I rested for a few days and tried not to think about it we had an appointment with our Dr. for a followup.  Dr. Young explained that this is very common and can honestly be a number of variables, he said typically it's due to having a thin uterine lining, meaning my sister would probably have a "lighter" period that month (because that is what you are shedding, your uterine lining). 

He told me that 90% of the time this process works within 3 rounds and for us to not worry that it's perfectly normal for it not to work the first time. 

The hardest part for me about sharing my story and our journey to parenthood is the questions I get.  When it didn't work I had about 1 million texts from friends and families asking if it worked, I had to relive my sadness every time I wrote someone, "no it didn't take this time." 

That doesn't deter me from telling our story though, mainly because I hope someone else going through this process or one similar reads it and says "YES, I understand!"  Maybe they will feel not so alone. 

So we are going in for round 2, it'll probably be about 5 weeks until we can try again, my sister has to take another round of hormone drugs, and then they have to create the embryo's lots of science going on here... I have high hopes though that round 2 will be my round.  Stay tuned....