If you are just tuning in to this story here is the gist; I was born with a fairly rare disorder, CAIS, I have no ovaries or uterus so not only can I not have children of my own, but I cant carry one either. My sister came to me and offered to be my gestational carrier. Which basically means we get an egg donor, and use my husbands sperm and she carries the baby.
If you don't struggle with infertility it's hard to understand the stress of it all. It can feel unfair, women have babies, it's what we do. Not being able to do that can make me sad and denying that would just be lying. A common thing I hear my friends say is; "I mean, I don't even know if I can get pregnant..."
I understand the thought process but more often than not you CAN even if it's with a little help from a specialist. The thing for me is, I CANT there is no help that can get me pregnant. I have to rely on a whole slew of people, my sister the carrier, my donor for her eggs, my husband for the sperm, and the doctors who implant it.
Anyway my feelings and emo-ness aside here is where we are at. After the first embryo transfer 10 days went by and we discover it did not implant which means the embryo did not attach itself to the uterine lining. There can be a number of reasons this happens, it could be as simple as my sister having a "light" month, so her uterine lining was thinner than normal, who really knows.
So after that she goes back to normal life until she has her cycle, by the time she had it, it was almost the middle of June. Once she had it she started her hormone medication again. It starts with a pill she takes every day and as we approach round 2 of in vitro she starts taking the heavy duty shots. She is in that process now.
As for us, we unfortunately only received 2 embryos out of our 7 eggs our donor provided us. You pay for your eggs and they are frozen, well when they thawed out only 2 made it through the thaw. Each round of in vitro you transfer 2 embryos, so we were out of eggs and I had to get more.
I think God is watching out for me because out of pure luck our donor was going back in to donate another batch of eggs the same month. I got 7 more eggs and prayed that this time we would get all 7 to work with.
One of the eggs did not make it but the other 6 successfully turned into embryos with a grade of 2+ to 1. (the scale is 1 to 4, 1 being the best quality, 4 being the worst.) They then freeze those 6 embryos and unthaw 2 at a time to do the in vitro process that hopefully we only need to do one more time.
Knowing we have 3 rounds worth of embryos makes me feel much better about the entire situation. I don't need to worry about paying for more eggs or having to find a new donor at least not for a while.
We currently do not know when the next transfer will be but I pray that the next round works and little baby Blankenship will be on his/her way. On another note here is a cute picture of my niece Sylvia, my husband Jimmy and myself:
And here is ANOTHER cute niece photo of us I call this one "An afternoon jog," Olives, Sylvia and me.